But that condition and those circumstances are not true for all trans people, and I am sick of seeing that meme reiterated over and over in hackneyed trans narratives and popular culture.So I wouldn't contribute to that by joining in the choir.The trans experience is too often misrepresented as being that of a woman "trapped in," or living with, a man's body (or vice versa). It often does things to me that are inconvenient and undesired, and it frequently imposes unwanted limitations on me.Acknowledging that this stereotype erases and invalidates the experiences of genderqueer and non-binary people, it's also incredibly frustrating to deal with in my own experience of gender as a reasonably binary-compliant female-identified trans woman. After growing up and (eventually) becoming a woman in this society, there are definitely still a few things I would change about my body if I could.I think we are both considering "taking it to the next level." We are on the same intellectual wavelength, enjoy the same social experiences, and have a lot of fun together. My friend decided it was the time to inform me that she is transgender, pre-op, and will not be having gender-reassignment surgery. I'm not homophobic, though I've never had a gay experience. I like this person, I like our relationship thus far, and I want to continue this relationship. Confused Over Complicating Knowledge Lemme get this out of way first, COCK: The nice lady isn't a man, so sex with her wouldn't be a "gay experience" and homophobia isn't the relevant term. You're a straight guy, you're attracted to women, and some women — as you now know — have dicks. It's fine if "no" is the answer to one or all of these questions, COCK, and not being into dick doesn't make you transphobic.Evan Urquhart, who writes about trans issues for Slate, argues that in addition to being gay, straight, bi, pan, demi, etc., some people are phallophiles and some are vaginophiles — that is, some people (perhaps most) have a strong preference for either partners with dicks or partners with vaginas.
They said that's not usually what they're into but they weren't interested in seeing anyone else and they had no problem being monogamous.And even though I know I shouldn't Now let's consider what exists or doesn't in my pelvis and the space between my legs, as trans people's greatest critics and admirers alike so often do.Why have I been unwilling to deal publicly with this?But now, your legally enforced knowledge of my genitals has been obfuscated by the passage of time, and by the privacy with which I've guarded my decisions.
The unreliable M on my birth certificate is nothing but a mockery of the entire bureaucratic registry and its backward rules, because throughout the medical aspects of my transition, I have refused the government's ultimatum to provide the dignity-violating medical documentation it requires from me in order to legally acknowledge that I am who I say I am. I have chosen to live by the principle that I should be the one to decide with whom I share these intimate physical details of myself, not some bureaucrat, or even a doctor.century, knowledge about my private parts and my health decisions is for me, and for those with whom I consent to share: my lovers, my friends, my doctor. We must join together and demand the world restore to every person that same respect and dignity.